Peace is one of the values that this season advocates, and an equally important one at that. Today’s world is far from the ideal one we dream of – wars, conflicts over petty issues, discriminating between religions and cultures – you name it – today’s world is marked by it all. We often hear people praying for, and spreading awareness about, world peace; for people to live in harmony – it’s hard, but not impossible.
But, this post is not about world peace; we all know and have heard plenty about that already. This post is about self-peace, it’s about possessing that sought-after peace of mind, which we so conveniently forget about while living our daily lives. It is that which enables us to live peaceful lives. When I say “peaceful lives”, I do NOT mean being non-violent or being mere, passive, helpless beings of any injustice done towards us. Of course, those are the things that help us live peacefully, but I don’t want to talk about that. We all know about it; we also know how boring and unappealing it sounds. To me, living peacefully is basically being happy with you; being satisfied with yourself. It is the basic foundation of living a peaceful life. Of course, it’s not the most elementary task in today’s world, where we are so caught up with just trying to survive, we don’t even find the time to just sit back and relax and enjoy the beauty that is life. Scratch that, it sounds too philosophical.
Having a peace of mind, to me, requires:
- Stress-free: Living stress-free, happy-go-lucky lives, albeit, not being too relaxed about it. Stressing out every now and then is okay – healthy, even. It helps us perform well – but we need to ensure it doesn’t go any further than that.
2. Being happy.
- With self.
Basically, everything in life boils down to this. Without being happy with who we are, without actually loving the person that we are, how can we expect to be at peace? We cannot just get on with our daily lives when, deep down, we are not truly satisfied with ourselves. If you find yourself constantly pointing out your own flaws, comparing yourself to others, and trying hard to prove – to no one more than yourself – that you’re not completely worthless, take it easy. Remember, everything starts with self. You want people to love you? Love yourself. You want people to respect you? Respect yourself. When we finally stop trying so hard to do things that we think will bring us peace… that will be the time we finally will be at peace.
- With our choices and the people around us.
Contrary to popular belief, life is simple. I’ll probably get slaughtered for saying that since I’m “JUST a sixteen year old, who hasn’t experienced much of life to be making that conclusion.” And yes, while all that is justified, I just want to point out that when we entered this world as infants, nothing was complicated. Is it just a coincidence, then, that as we grew up, our lives suddenly started to get complex? Personally, I don’t think so. At the end of the day, it is we who are responsible for the happenings in our life. We have to make our own choices – granted, we don’t always get that privilege, but mostly, we do. Our happiness, or sadness, is the outcome of our choices. We need to make wise decisions – the results of which will keep us happy and satisfied and peaceful. For an example: we get to choose our friends. They play a very significant role in our lives. They also do influence our path to a peaceful life – either in a good way, or a bad one. If we are not happy with our friends, or people around us, we will always feel like our life is lacking something. So, although it may sound silly when used in this context, we need to choose our friends carefully.
- With life.
I think I’ve covered up everything I meant to say with regards to happiness, but I felt it important to state being happy with our lives separately, because that will help us develop a positive outlook towards everything – the good and the bad aspects of our lives, and thus, help us live stress-free, peaceful, happy lives.
Last, but most definitely not the least keeping in mind the theme of this blog: prayer. It is THE most important thing in our lives. A relationship with God is the best kind you can ever have. Conversing with Him daily is not only advisable, but also essential. As much as we’d like to think we’re independent, we will always be dependent on one person, without even realizing it – GOD. And, as much as we’d like to think we’re in control of our lives and capable of making our own decisions, we’re not. We need help, and I don’t think there is anyone better to turn to than the very own Creator of your life, who brought you to this earth.
Carols for the week:
1. O Holy Night
2. Christmas must be something more – Taylor Swift
3. What Child is this
4. Carol of the bells
5. Twelve days of Christmas